Saturday, August 6, 2016

The Love Your Spouse Challenge

Several of my friends recently participated in the "Love Your Spouse" challenge on Facebook. I was nominated by a friend, but I didn't have a lot of photos of us handy, so I declined to participate. That was one reason. Another was that I wasn't sure about participating with spotlight photos of us that would present a "picture" of us for everyone to see...and compare to.

Do you ever look at photos of married couples who look so perfect and so happy and wonder, "Do they ever have challenges that cause them heartache? Are they always loving like that? Do they ever doubt?"  An article posted today by a blogger who refused to participate in the challenge said something like we know and see one hundred percent of our lives, but Facebook only shows five percent. And we compare that real-life one hundred percent with everyone else's five percent of perfection. She then went on to post pictures of her and her husband fighting, driving in the car while lost and late, sleeping on the couch while trying to watch a movie because they're so exhausted.  It was funny, but it was also more accurate.  This girl was a young mom in the throws of nursing and sleepless nights with babies.  She was tired and feeling real.

After reading that article I thought about my friends who posted.  It occurred to me that I didn't have many young friends who posted. Most of the posts on my feed came from older couples. Not old in age, but more seasoned in marriage. They posted pictures of their marriages years earlier and of more recent trips and current activities, and all with appreciative comments. Why were most of my friends who posted more seasoned couples? I have a theory.

The good stuff, the really good stuff comes later in the journey.

The true appreciation we gain for our spouses comes later.  It comes after the honeymoon years, after the kids are nearly grown, after illness, the loss of parents, the gut-wrenching, drive-you-to-your- knees trials...after refining experiences that help us see through different eyes.  I see many young people declare that they married their best friend.  I didn't. But he became my best friend on our journey.  He's had my back through some difficult periods, and I've had his. When I look at that cute (very young) couple in the picture posted above, I no longer think, "young love birds," or "what a beautiful couple," or any of the idealistic things we think about the couples in wedding photos. At this stage in life I think, "They had no idea what the journey would be like."  And I see how far they have come.  I don't even feel like that girl in the photo anymore.

To sum up my thoughts I would give the following advice--As you look at those "Love Your Spouse" challenge photos, remember that they are not perfect couples.  That they've been through some tough trials.  They argue like you do, they cry like you do, and they've been on their knees many, many times just like you have.  The joy is in the journey, and the reward comes later on.

After twenty nine years of marriage I can boast that we've hung on.  We've stayed together through doubt, discouragement and despair. Our faith is the reason that we keep walking. We both have loyal personalities, but we both have strong testimonies of the gospel of Jesus Christ. We keep trying because we want to make it.  We also love each other deeply and appreciatively. I can't imagine going through life with anyone else.  I married the person that was going to challenge me to grow, although I didn't know that at the time.  He's funny and sweet, hardworking and diligent, resilient and compassionate, and the best partner in parenting. I learn from his example, and I am lighter because of his sense of humor and positive personality.

Next time you come across one of those challenges and look longingly at the perfection, remember that there's ninety-five percent of that story not showing. Don't compare. Do your best and keep walking forward improving yourself and your relationship wherever you can.  Appreciate your journey and embrace it.

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Track Banquet 2016

Heather was looking radiant and beautiful at her track banquet tonight! She had another successful year. She came back from a fractured tailbone injury, missing the first few months of training, to PR in both the 100m and 300m hurdle events. She is exclusively a hurdle runner now, and this picture is missing Coach Knowels and Coach Krissy who are the hurdle coaches. Good work Heather! You continue to amaze us with your strength and endurance through the "hurdles" in life.

Monday, May 30, 2016

Memorial Day BBQ

Kelly was king of the kitchen once again frying up some good food for Memorial Day dinner. Onion rings, tater tots, homemade bacon burgers, corn on the cob and mushroom saute. SO GOOD!

Friday, May 27, 2016

Olympic Sweat

That's Jenna in the white shirt with the towel. She was cheering so loud for her favorite players at the US National Volleyball scrimmage tonight that they gave her a job on the court. She got to sit there next to the team and run out after any play where a guy hit the ground. She wiped up their sweat with the towel. She's such a germaphobe that it was hard to believe she was okay with this!
She can now say she's wiped up the sweat of Olympians. She had so much fun tonight!

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Fulton Track Meet for Jenna

 Friends having success in the longer distances

Jenna getting ready for one of three attempts

 Jenna and Rachel Hanson from Moiola days

 Jenna took 2nd place in the running long jump! Woot!

Sarah made a great mascot!

Today was the district track meet for the middle schools. Jenna was a jumper and competed in the running long jump. She did pretty well even though she didn't jump quite as far as she had wanted to. A great second competition in track and field for Jen. We're proud of you Jen!

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Beauty and The Beast

Our church friends were in a theater production of Beauty and The Beast, and we got to go see it tonight. Clark Matthews was an excellent Gaston, and Morgan Parker a hilarious Lumiere. Lauren Snow was in the ensemble and did a great job as well. We had a great time! Such talented youth!

Friday, May 20, 2016

Newsie's Practice for the Jubilee

Tonight's practice for the Jubilee was fun for Heather. She's in the Newsie's number, and Sister Holmstrom asked who could do tricks. It seemed the right place for hurdling over some people, so Heather mentioned it to her. Here she's hurdling over one person, and then she tried two. This girl can fly! She's got a part in the trick section, and I know she'll do great.